The couple is among the most significant experiences of each individual, is a magical relationship that combine playing and fantasy. The sentiment holds together the partners and creates an atmosphere conducive to a stable and durable. L ' love, the' affection, the tenderness , which enhance the relationship by giving pleasure and ecstasy, with the passage of time tend naturally decrease. Most often, spouses do not stop to reflect on the fact that their pair is composed of three elements: the personalities of both partners and the communication between them.
It should be noted that the meaning of a communication , clear to the sender, is often obscure to the recipient. The decoding of the message requires, in essence, reading the thoughts of those who sent him. Frequently, the ways in which it interprets are quite unique, and influenced by their wealth of experiences and expectations. The way in which the spouse perceives and interprets what the other is more important may have the same actions and can make satisfactory or an unsatisfactory marriage.
Our fallible way of thinking predisposes us to misinterpret the behavior of others or exaggerate the meaning, explain it in malicious sense when it disappoints us, to project a negative image on them.
In the constant search for stability in the relationship people have always come to terms, definitions and redefinitions of rules that may be expressed or implied. It is important to note that each partner brings the couple their expectations, standards and beliefs. It is important to focus on how partners, each other, you perceive, you feel bad or fail to perceive, and the way they communicate, communicate poorly or fail to communicate. In some situations have very close relations particularly intense meanings that are not based on the event real, but opinions from major partners is one of the actions of others. The symbols that relate to the marriage are many, but the excessive reactions are particularly triggered by two types of symbolic events: those that revolve around the theme of love and affection-not those that revolve around the theme of respect.
During the infatuation of the courtship and early in the mat reassembled, couples are prevented in the affirmative. Almost everything your spouse says or does is interpreted in the best light. Over time, grief ol'irritazione induce a negative bias. What especially distinguishes those happy marriages in crisis is not so much the lack of pleasant experiences rather large number of unpleasant experiences, or those that are interpreted as such.
At critical moments, the partners afraid to ask for psychological help continue to persevere in "dysfunctional programs" that have resulted in a short communication circuit and projecting the ratio to a point of no return. Ask a psychological, rather, helps to reduce the dysfunctional thoughts, thereby reducing the tensions partners and helping them rediscover the pleasure of being together.
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